‘Our first and last love is self-love’ – Christian Nestell Bovee

This quote resonates but makes me kind of sad. How many of us have been distracted from our journey of self-love? Whether by childhood trauma, societal, cultural or religious values – many of us are diverted at an early age into putting ourselves second, or even thinking ourselves worthless. I certainly get a hell of a lot of clients who carry the belief: ‘I’m not good enough’ Some of us are lucky enough to feel this self-love intensely at the end of our lives and it gives us a whole new perspective, sadly, just a little too late.

The Unexplored Self

Many of us live our lives on autopilot, conforming to societal expectations and neglecting our true selves. We may spend years pursuing external validation, seeking approval from others, and ignoring our own desires and dreams. However, true fulfilment comes from within. By delving into our inner world, we can unlock a wealth of potential and live a more authentic life.

The Power of Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is the foundation of self-discovery. By paying attention to our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours, we can gain valuable insights into our strengths, weaknesses, and patterns. This increased awareness allows us to make conscious choices and live more intentionally.

The Importance of Self-Care

Prioritizing self-care is essential for our overall well-being. Engaging in activities that nourish our minds, bodies, and souls can help us reduce stress, improve our mood, and enhance our creativity. Whether it's spending time in nature, practicing yoga, or simply taking a quiet moment to meditate, self-care is a powerful tool for self-discovery.

Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

Society often imposes rigid expectations on us, shaping our identities and limiting our potential. By challenging these expectations and embracing our individuality, we can live more authentic and fulfilling lives. It's important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to happiness and success.

Embracing the Journey

The journey of self-discovery is a lifelong process. It's a journey filled with twists and turns, challenges and triumphs. By embracing the process, we can unlock our full potential and live a life of purpose and meaning.

Practical Tips for Self-Discovery:

Mindfulness Meditation: This practice can help us become more present and aware of our thoughts and feelings.

Journaling: Writing about our experiences can help us process our emotions and gain valuable insights.

Coaching: A coach can provide guidance and support as we navigate our inner world.

Creative Expression: Engaging in creative activities, such as painting, writing, or music, can help us express ourselves authentically.

Remember, the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. By investing time and energy in self-discovery, you can unlock a world of possibilities.